Working On It

I believe in transparency, so you’re going to get it. My husband is the one that taught and encouraged me to be transparent, so he understands.

This fall marks 10 years since my husband (Mr. T) and I met. Next spring will mark 10 years of marriage for us. Marriage is hard. It’s a lot of work. Marriage has seasons. Right now we are in a season of work, we are working on our marriage, it is not easy at this moment. We choose to be married and we choose to stay married. We choose to love, because love is not just a happy feeling.

It’s easy to fall into doing your own thing, especially after seasons that require those types of behaviors. Mr. T was traveling, ill, away from home. I had to be strong, independent; he has to be focused on his work, as he has many important projects. That makes it hard to be a team. But we are working on it. We’re reminding ourselves how to work as a team, how to be considerate of one another, and not just independent. We are a family.

Why am I sharing this? Because it’s part of my life, and because it might frame some upcoming posts. It’s hard to talk about when you are in the deepest, darkest part. We are now past that part, we’re on the mend, I can talk about it now. Maybe you are struggling and you think you are all alone, the only one with those thoughts. You’re not, we all have seasons of it if we are married for any time at all. It’s just life, and we just choose to work through it until we make it better.